many of you know that we've had many many struggles with kaylee, pretty much since she's been born it's been one thing or another. when school started this year we started to see some behavioral issue intensify and as well as her anxiety level. she has been BLESSED big time with an amazing and very understanding teacher who was very patient with her (and us) while we figured out what was going on. about 2 months ago her school sent home a letter about an ADHD meeting that was going to be held and taught by the founder of a clinic in Provo. my mom went with me that night and after the 2 hour meeting we were both 99.9% sure that kaylee had ADHD....(beau had it as well and ADHD is hereditary)
i finally worked up the nerve to make an appointment with this clinic for kaylee to be evaluated. even though i knew in my heart that this was what was going on with kaylee, a part of me was scared because i knew how difficult life can be for a child suffering. we also discovered that our insurance wouldn't cover the testing/meetings with therapist so we've had to pay out of pocket for that, but really
in the end it was so worth it.
i'll make the long story short, but after testing, meetings, etc. kaylee does (for sure) have ADHD. not a surprise by any means and we are now working on new things to help make things easier for her. i won't go into the choices we've made, since A. their personal and B. everyone has an opinion about things like this......
anyway. kaylee is an amazingly, creative and special kid. sometimes it's hard to be patient with her and not feel frustrated about the situation, although i know that things could be much worse and many kids do suffer from horrible diseases, this is our trial right now and something we're slowly learning how to deal with.
i've been reading/researching and trying to find out as much information i can and ways that i can be a better mom for her. my cousins wifes sister (did you follow that) as ADD and her kids do as well. she wrote a little parable about ADD/ADHD on her blog that i thought was great. she got this from her doctor:
Long ago, there were two ways a man could provide food for his family.
One way was to become a farmer. A farmer takes pride in his crop. He knows what seeds he will plant and plans ahead for the next year. He prepares his soil. He readies his fields. On the right day, he starts sowing and his seeds are set in long, straight lines. He works with intent and follows his plan closely as he waters his crop every day. Watching the crop grow and stretch toward the sun is satisfying and rewarding and he finds beauty in the harvest of his symmetrical creation.
The other way a man can provide food for his family is to become a hunter. When a hunter is ready, he makes his way to the woods and acts on instinct. There is no exact routine to follow, so he takes his cues from the things he sees and feels around him. He uses his senses and his intuition. He understands the way the animals move and what drives them. He watches for their tracks and finds food and water sources. He knows when he is getting closer and the exhilaration of all things coming together feels right. The reward of meat to feed his family is satisfying and his love and appreciation for nature move him.
Both are right. Neither is wrong.
Perhaps a farmer would get frustrated not to have a plan. It might make him uncomfortable. Maybe he would worry that if he hasn’t planned ahead then he isn’t being responsible and if there isn’t a plan, then how can his family rely on him to provide? It would cause anxiety and be unsettling to live life on a whim.
Most likely a hunter would feel weighed down by a sense of monotony at having to abide by the strict guidelines of the farmer’s life. There would be an underlying restlessness because he is not relying on his instinct. There is nothing to inspire his spirit in straight lines and no surprises. Watering the same plot of land every day with nothing varying might feel oppressive and unnatural.
hopefully things will be getting better now for us.
i finally worked up the nerve to make an appointment with this clinic for kaylee to be evaluated. even though i knew in my heart that this was what was going on with kaylee, a part of me was scared because i knew how difficult life can be for a child suffering. we also discovered that our insurance wouldn't cover the testing/meetings with therapist so we've had to pay out of pocket for that, but really
in the end it was so worth it.
i'll make the long story short, but after testing, meetings, etc. kaylee does (for sure) have ADHD. not a surprise by any means and we are now working on new things to help make things easier for her. i won't go into the choices we've made, since A. their personal and B. everyone has an opinion about things like this......
anyway. kaylee is an amazingly, creative and special kid. sometimes it's hard to be patient with her and not feel frustrated about the situation, although i know that things could be much worse and many kids do suffer from horrible diseases, this is our trial right now and something we're slowly learning how to deal with.
i've been reading/researching and trying to find out as much information i can and ways that i can be a better mom for her. my cousins wifes sister (did you follow that) as ADD and her kids do as well. she wrote a little parable about ADD/ADHD on her blog that i thought was great. she got this from her doctor:
Long ago, there were two ways a man could provide food for his family.
One way was to become a farmer. A farmer takes pride in his crop. He knows what seeds he will plant and plans ahead for the next year. He prepares his soil. He readies his fields. On the right day, he starts sowing and his seeds are set in long, straight lines. He works with intent and follows his plan closely as he waters his crop every day. Watching the crop grow and stretch toward the sun is satisfying and rewarding and he finds beauty in the harvest of his symmetrical creation.
The other way a man can provide food for his family is to become a hunter. When a hunter is ready, he makes his way to the woods and acts on instinct. There is no exact routine to follow, so he takes his cues from the things he sees and feels around him. He uses his senses and his intuition. He understands the way the animals move and what drives them. He watches for their tracks and finds food and water sources. He knows when he is getting closer and the exhilaration of all things coming together feels right. The reward of meat to feed his family is satisfying and his love and appreciation for nature move him.
Both are right. Neither is wrong.
Perhaps a farmer would get frustrated not to have a plan. It might make him uncomfortable. Maybe he would worry that if he hasn’t planned ahead then he isn’t being responsible and if there isn’t a plan, then how can his family rely on him to provide? It would cause anxiety and be unsettling to live life on a whim.
Most likely a hunter would feel weighed down by a sense of monotony at having to abide by the strict guidelines of the farmer’s life. There would be an underlying restlessness because he is not relying on his instinct. There is nothing to inspire his spirit in straight lines and no surprises. Watering the same plot of land every day with nothing varying might feel oppressive and unnatural.
hopefully things will be getting better now for us.
cute sisters
2 comments:
So proud of you for being such a great Mommy and doing what's best for your little girl! *High five* for not caring what other people's opinions are either! Whatever works for Kaylee is all that matters! *hugs* Brenda
I had no idea, but I'm go glad you were able to find answers for your family. She is such a cute girl. It was good to talk to your mom at the RS luau!!
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